Wednesday, August 25, 2010

Isn't it funny how one day you can be in the best mood and nothing is bad and everything looks positive and good?
And then in a single day, it all turns on you.


Monday we went to help the big one with his financial aid for college.
The financial aid form that was completed in April had an issue and was incomplete and school had already started that very day and dorms were full and money had already been doled out and my son had already enrolled in some classes and been accepted into the music program including jazz and marching band and he had commitments to the director and here we were, an hour from home, trying to decide if he should commute or find a place that was available, and we were being told that he couldn't enroll for the rest of his classes without payment and the forms wouldn't be processed for 3-5 days.
As I have mentioned, we are not going to pay for his college.
This did not sit well with him as he waited for us to again bail him out of the hole he dug by putting off things.
He did not want to discuss his immediate options.
Monday was a bad day and we ended up leaving angry and exasperated with him. Again.

I went to bed early and then yesterday things started coming together and today, things have improved.

The weather has been in the high 70's and low 80's and sunny and the windows are open and I am going to nap in my hammock.

4 comments:

  1. I applaud you for not bailing him out! I really do!

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  2. again I really admire you for standing firm in what you said with Big One and not going back on your words. we're going to be doing the same with son over here so very shortly (not about college because he has no interest in it) but expectations and realizations of what he needs to do with his life and what he has to start paying for......

    hugs to you!!!

    betty

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  3. Kudos to you for making the Big One take responsibility. Kinda went thru the same thing with my oldest. I gave him a second chance, but made him sign a Contract. No misunderstandings there, nosiree. Annnd, his third year was ALL on him.

    The nap in your hammock....sounds fabulous!

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  4. i also am very proud that you are standing to your word and being firm with your son. we have a son that is 27, married with kids, a wife....he lives here in town near us. he is constantly "in trouble" and we have to bail him out. financially mostly, but lately it is with the kids too. but i just can't turn my back on my grand kids. when it comes to them, i can't see them going without. but when they want extra stuff...we have to question them all the time. we raised both our kids with good values and good judgements. both the same. one is a saver and is frugal, the other spends (that is my son) till its all gone. they both have families. you just can't live like that. you have to be responsible when you have others to look out for. he doesn't. and what you and your husband are doing are teaching him will pay off in the long run. mine is still learning. i don't know if we just bailed him out for too long....i don't know. but what you are doing is right. stick with it, and you will see great results. i commend you and your hubby, it is very hard to be rough on your kids like that. it breaks my heart to tell mine no. but you can't just keep enabling them. they will never learn that way. keep up the good work!

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